Willena Flewelling – Alberta Canada
CHAPTER 10: The Power of the Mastermind
This a message of hope, and not despair, but it is with some trepidation that
I write it.
We say: Mentoring For Free is where you are taught HOW to think, not WHAT
to think.
We say: Become a Critical Thinker, not blindly following the network marketing
gurus.
We say: Your lack of success is Not Your Fault… you are Perfect Just the
Way You Are, to do this business.
We say: Understand the Personality Colors and you will be able to talk to
anyone.
I am a Green personality. That means I am organized, I love numbers, and I
don’t talk a lot because I want ALL the information on a subject before I form
an opinion on it. I think before I speak. I want all my ducks in a row before
I take action.
But…
What if you are a highly distractible Scattered Green?
What if you say your self talk faithfully, at least 100 times a day, and your
mind is still in turmoil because you aren’t like Greens are supposed to be?
What if you focus on the positive emotions, and avoid all negative, and you still
struggle daily to find the sunshine and joy? What if your mind is continuously at
war between the need for organization, and chaos… between the need for
structure, and fragmentation?
This is not negative programming, folks. This is as real as Michael being a Blue
and Ken being a Green. I cannot change my color any more than they can.
I have been participating in the Mental Cleanse for well over three years now,
and I have not missed a lesson plan for almost that long. I hear people say all
the time that my lesson plans show I KNOW the answers. So WHY am I not
experiencing the consistency and maturity that are promised to those who
faithfully participate, and for which I long so desperately?
Am I really such a hypocrite? Am I a fraud??
In a way, yes I am. Because I am still trying to be someone I am not. I am
trying to be more than I am. The past six months have brought changes that
have caused unraveling to an unnerving degree in my life. I’ve had to re-evaluate
a lot of things, in my journey to find out who I really am. Michael doesn’t like me
to say I have ADHD, because that can so easily become a label and an excuse
for not getting anything done. But after three years of struggle and frustration
as I have tried to be the Green that I KNOW I AM, there is no other way to
describe the nightmare I live with day in and day out, despite my very best
efforts to do what my mentors tell me to do. To deny that my mind is wired that
way is to put all the blame squarely on my shoulders for what I have been utterly
unable to change, these three years.
And if it IS my fault and I have NOT changed despite a tremendous effort over
the past three years… it only adds piles on the guilt.
I said at the beginning that this is a story of hope, and not despair. And it is.
I have come face to face with who I really am. I am a Unique Individual, not a
clone. I am a Critical Thinker, not someone who blindly follows the crowd. I am
a Green who has sticky notes and stacks of papers and books scattered all over
her desk, blocking the way to her well-organized bookshelves. I have a home
with a place for everything that is in constant disarray. And there are 24
windows currently open on my desktop as I frantically write my Mental Cleanse
lesson at 2:30 am on Wednesday morning.
And therefore, I can learn from our BLUE mentors as they tell us what they do
to overcome their weaknesses.
Michael tells me he used to say his self talk at least 400 times a day, and he
writes a To Do List every night for the next day. If saying my self talk 100 times
a day is not helping me, it’s time to ramp it up. And if I’m not getting much
accomplished each day with what I am doing, it’s time to make a To Do List
every night.
It doesn’t sound like much to my perfectionist Green mind, but it’s a solid starting
point for pulling my fragmented life back together again. Therefore, I commit to
doing those two things every day without fail, and report to my mentor each day.
Willena Flewelling
Alberta Canada
P.S. I can’t be the only one here who has struggled in this area. If this is you,
then I would strongly encourage you to learn from others in Mentoring For Free,
no matter what their color is. Learn what you need from whoever has what you
want!
THAT, my friends, is the Power of the Mastermind.
Lesson plan from Willena Flewelling on chapter 10 for the 30 day mental cleanse.
You can participate in the 30 day mental cleanse at http://www.30daycleanse.com
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